some of my life's shit and a few updates for you
you can get hand-written letters now. yuuup, iām for real š
*dusts cobwebs on the website and coughs*
My dearest companion, kedu?
I know that it has been some time since I wrote a letter to you and that has been for exciting and sad reasons.
Firstly, my laptop screen went flat in mid-April. One fine morning as I was gisting with my friends on a call, my laptop screen went black and to date refuses to come on except when tilted at a specific angle. Fixing it cost just as much as buying a new one so I scraped up all the funds that I had and purchased myself a new laptop. Living without my laptop for a few weeks affected my workflow and my motivation to work negatively but I was grateful to be in a position where I could replace my laptop with little difficulty.
While I was figuring out my laptop business, I was prepping for my exhibition at the Museum of Modern Art in New York. Yes, my dear. I was part of a group exhibition at the MoMA which was a life-changing experience.
You can take a look at the work that was exhibited here and you can watch a recap of my trip over here.
Iām back home and settling into the new flow that has come from these changes in my life. And while doing that, I am prepping for a few more that have come and will involve you, my dearest.
Here they are:
I am currently house-hunting. This does not involve you but I will say keep me in your prayers as I search for my long-term home. I am searching for a place that I can call home; a place where I can live for more than 3 years. I am looking for stability, peace of mind and a better quality of life. This house hunt was never in the plan at the beginning of the year but you see, after I returned from NY, something changed in me. There was a deeper yearning for change and upward mobility. A renewed desire for more and a push to take bolder risks. This feeling existed as gentle whispers but being away from Lagos for some time gave me the space to ask myself if I was genuinely comfortable with the life I had created for myself back home. I was not and one thing that needed to change was my home. I have faith that July will bring me gifts and I am open to receiving them. If you are like me, in a place where you want more for yourself, let me share with you a few words that have gotten me through each day of this new journey:
It is okay not to empathise with suffering everywhere you see it. You can understand why it exists and contribute in your way to alleviate it but you do not have to live it or sit in it longer than needed.
There is no shame in wanting more. Allow yourself to expand and trust in your capacity to give yourself more.
As you walk into a new season of your life, give yourself permission to do so and bless that new season with abundance.
Do not let fear hold you back. Be afraid and take that risk.
Talk to your friend(s) that is optimistic and reassuring when you feel worn out. They are good for your spirit.
Life. Shit. has an Instagram page! Follow me here. What will I be sharing? Excerpts of new and old letters, short clips of myself recording podcast episodes, words that have helped me and other companions here navigate some of lifeās shit, and any updates worth sharing!
I am planning a physical gathering. I had recently shared a poll asking if you would attend a live event and those who responded said that they would. Once I got the feedback, I began looking for a space. Unfortunately, one of the spaces that I found did not come through as I hoped so I am back on the ground seeking a convenient space. As soon as I do, I will set a date and share with you. Follow my life.shit.ās Instagram page so you can get updates on the progress.
You can receive handwritten letters! I have always approached this newsletter from the perspective of a letter being written to a companion who is walking through life with me so I thought to myself āWhy not make it an actual part of the experience of life. shit.?ā
So if you would like a handwritten letter sent to you within Lagos for now, you can request one. I have purchased a new wax seal stamp kit in addition to my existing one to make this a beautiful and cute experience.
Finally, I have decided to never turn this Substack into a paid subscription page. However, to continue this labour of love that takes hours of my time to think, write, record, edit and upload, I encourage you to support me with a donation.
These are the changes and updates, my lovely. I promise to be committed to writing and recording for the rest of the year. Hopefully, life does not throw me violently off balance as it has during the past two months. Even if it does, I will always get right back on the horse and continue.
Until we speak again.
Have a soft week!
With love,
A.
Loved this newsletter - relatable content and defs missed you. Cheers on wanting more and cheers to getting it š«¶š½