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Hi Amanda, I enjoyed reading this.

I do actually consider myself to be lucky because I have several layers of friendships that are categorized based on how close we are. I also do have acquaintances that manage to somehow become friends. I however do not have tips on how to make friends because it honestly comes natural for me, I don’t even try. I do believe that I’m easily lovable and that may have contributed somehow.

Also I think it may have to do with the fact that I socialize a lot, and I like to connect with people based on our shared interest.

I also let people talk about themselves and I pay genuine attention to what they say, when people feel like they’re listened to, they want to talk to you more. I don’t only listen, I ask questions that indicates my interest in whatever it is they’re talking about. What I know for sure is that people have stuff to say, sometimes interesting things/events in their lives so I just want to be their audience.

And when it comes to the subject of contacting them, I first go for the less invasive mediums, say for instance IG, that way I get to see only the side they want the public to see, and we can start communicating gradually from there

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I think I’ve had the same friendships for a while and yes, it’s also really hard to make new friends in adulthood. I keep a small circle of close friends but I find that I feel lonely as I get older. It’s almost like your needs for these relationships keep changing.

I was fortunate to have had a partner who was able to be my friend at the same time. When you have that one person that understands you and opens you up to more ways of being loved you start to question your other friendships (especially when that particular relationship ends).

So I think my point is, as we get older our needs change and we realize that some things aren’t enough and that makes it harder to make new friends. When you’re currently unsatisfied with the say things have been done, even meeting or finding new friends is a task. Being an introverted person it’s even harder, sigh.

On being ghosted, I don’t know why it has been normalized😂 it’s cruelty. I just feel like things should be straightforward, that’s respect.

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Hi Amanda! I enjoyed reading❤️

I have a few close knit friends and I enjoy each of their company ( albeit we hardly see in recent times cos adulthood be happening to us😒) Apart from this few, anyone I have been privileged to meet in this life journey, I call them acquaintance (or any description that fits) Overtime, I have learnt not to use the word friends loosely.

And tbh, building new friendships these days is such a chore! It's either you're trying so hard to keep up with communication or the other party don't care.

I have been ghosted once(maybe I didn't pass the vibe check😭)

Lovers on lovers.....Nah! I spend more time with my friends than Man's. I will learn to balance that though.

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