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Wonderfully captured. I feel seen you know?

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Hello Chimdi,

I am doing quite well. I am sat on the couch at home, drafting the write up for this and typing up this response to you.

I do hope you are doing fine too!

I am so glad that I was able to resonate with you when you read this letter. Reading your comments, I see that we have similarities around our insecurities around money. Your realizations are right. I congratulated myself yesterday for how much I had done to get myself to where I am today financially. It is far from where I started and all that effort needs to be acknowledged and celebrated. I feel really good. Reality is different, perspective matters and truly, we do not know what goes on behind the scenes. Writing this letter and the following responses from readers has emphasized this even more. You and I, we shall give ourselves grace, compassion, and the space to enjoy the money that we worked hard and planned hard for. 🥂

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Hi Amanda, hope you good?

I resonate with this post so much! I feel seen...I feel like someone finally gets it! I started feeling insecure about money in my undergraduate days. I would have to save to be able to afford something's I wanted whilst I watched my friends purchase same things with zero stress! I felt like the broke friend really but I soon realized some things; 1) I would need to put in more work to achieve the financial freedom I crave for 2) There's a lot going on behind the scenes I do not know, so baby steps girl.....reality is different.

I have graduated now, I'm not a high

income earner yet, but with what I earn...I try to manage my income. I spend money on the things I truly need not because I'm pressured in anyway. I take bolt when I need to be more comfortable to my destination and I take bus/okada when I need to be early.

I don't see the need to perform to be rich, because if you go down...na only you go suffer am!

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Jul 14, 2022Liked by Amanda Iheme

It's prudent to plan around your money, but it doesn't look cool till you're a billionaire. Keeping up with Instagram sends people to the pits so I advise ignoring or muting such posts for your sanity 😅.

Too many people performing rich ohhh. Especially in this Lagos.

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Jul 13, 2022Liked by Amanda Iheme

You're not broke and being a person that budgets for stuff makes you a financially responsible person. You should be able to know where all your money is going to afterall you worked for it. Even when you're very wealthy you will still budget cos like you said, you have savings, investments, rent, emergency funds etc. So when you're rich you'll still have all those things and You need to put a plan in place for how much money goes into each of them. I get the bolt and bus stuff 😅 I've always been a bus person so for the most part you'll see me taking bus but also remember that other people don't have the life you have they may have more money than you do, earn from more places and even probably have financial support from their family. All In all your financial literacy has brought you thus far and I do think it'll take you even further.

Those that are dropping gbam they probably have enjoyment budget they have money in place for other things also

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